In my career, I’ve coached women to reach their big goals and helped them achieve many great and seemingly impossible things from tremendous weight loss to a high-paying new job.
I believe that if you have a strong desire to do something, that it’s your dharma calling. So, when you have a strong desire for something, you also have within you the ability to make it happen. Often, women miss out on this because they’re told their desires are wrong or bad.
All babies are born with a need to be loved, a need to feel safe and secure, and a need for self esteem. Self esteem is about self worth, self confidence, and self belief.
When one of those areas wavers, it’s really uncomfortable and you stop acting like yourself.
Most human beings develop a craving for being liked by others and a need for security and in women this can develop into a need to please. But the desire under that craving is that you really want to accepted by others just the way you are.
But instead of being who you are, you cover up your unique attributes and special gifts so that you don’t stand out. Pretending to be someone you’re not is exhausting and can make you really sick.
In order to create the body and life of your dreams you have to let go of the need to please others. You have to let go of the habit of pretending to be who you think others want you to be.
I had a client once, who told me that she wanted to lose weight to change her body and have relief from the autoimmune condition that caused so much suffering in her bones. We looked at her diet, her lifestyle habits, and her exercise routine. This client was known for her love of wine. She was convinced that she just needed the right exercises.
She agreed to do a short detox from alcohol and certain other inflammatory foods. But when she announced it on social media, she got push back from her friends. When she was teased about not being able to have a glass of wine, she couldn’t stick to her commitment to herself. She couldn’t let go of the idea of being who everyone else thought she was.
Most of my clients are ready to change. This one was not.
Can you imagine what your life would it be like if you FULLY embraced who you really are?
If you want something to change, you have to be the one to change it. You have to be the one to change.
Stop making the same choices, just because they’re easy.
Stop doing things, just because they’re comfortable.
And stop trying to control what other people think of you.
If you choose to be comfortable, you’ll stay exactly the way you are now.
Or, like my amazing clients, you can consciously choose to get comfortable with the discomfort. If you choose courage, persistence, and support from a coach or a guide, you’ll experience an amazing transformation and healing.
Nothing changes until you do.